High-Achieving… and Hollowed Out? Let's Talk About the Real Cost of Being “The Strong One” in Business


From the desk of Dr. Frantonia Pollins
Tuesday, June 17, 2025

Greetings Reader,

I'm about to say the quiet part out loud...
High-achieving women are silently falling apart… behind beautifully branded businesses and perfectly curated launches.

They’re burned out. Resentful. Uninspired. And trapped in cycles of hyper-productivity, under-earning, and over-functioning.

And before you think I’m pointing fingers—no, love. I’m telling on us. Because I’ve been her, too.


In
my last email, I pulled back the curtain on our recent Divine Disruption Virtual Day Retreat and the hidden blocks that keep powerful women stuck in business models, relationships, and roles they’ve outgrown but are too damn loyal to leave.

Today, we’re going deeper into the quiet breakdown behind your busy calendar
The part of your life where the to-do list is long, but the results don’t match your
brilliance.

The part where you keep asking yourself,

“If I’m doing everything right… Why does none of this feel right anymore?”

During the Divine Disruption Virtual Day Retreat, we peeled back the layers—the ambition, the accolades, the armor. What we found underneath was a collective exhaustion that no vacation or productivity hack could fix.

I created a sacred space where we told the truth: about the sacrifices we’ve normalized, the creativity we’ve buried, and the boundaries we never learned to hold.
It wasn’t just a virtual retreat. It was a long overdue reckoning.

And out of that reckoning came deeper levels of clarity.
Here are a few more things that were uncovered that day:

4. The Myth of “Doing It All” Is Killing Your Creativity

At one point, one woman leaned in and said with tears in her eyes,

“I’m doing everything—coaching, content creation, launching courses, serving, but I haven’t created anything that actually lights me up in years.”

And that was it. That was the moment we cracked the lie wide open. The lie that says productivity equals power. The lie that says rest is weakness. The lie that says you’ll earn more if you give more.

Listen to me: Being hyperbusy is not a sustainable business model.

Your sacred creativity doesn’t thrive in chaos,\; as a matter of fact, it dies.
Your genius doesn’t activate when you’re in survival mode—it shuts down.

Lesson:
True productivity isn’t about doing more. It’s about
being more present.
It’s about honoring your energy, your cycles, your season, and recognizing that
flow is the new flex.

5. Boundaries Aren’t Brutal—They’re Brilliant

Halfway through the retreat, we stopped everything to address what I now call the Boundary Blackout.

One woman realized she’d planned, promoted, and executed a $40k launch without once asking for what she needed to deliver it well—support, space, time, and price alignment.

She was pissed; not at the clients, at herself. And she wasn’t alone.

Too many of us have built premium-level businesses on poverty-level boundaries. (Whew! Let that marinate for a minute.)

We say yes out of fear. We overdeliver out of guilt. We stay accessible to people we've outgrown out of habit.
And then we wonder why our launches feel heavy, our income plateaus, and we're just plain exhausted.

Lesson:
A boundary isn’t a wall—it’s a
wealth filter. It protects your energy, your integrity, your peace, and your profits.

You don’t need more effort. You need more alignment. Stop mistaking exhaustion for excellence.

Stop confusing busyness with purpose. And for the love of all that is holy, stop calling it “service” when what you’re really doing… is slowly sacrificing your soul for external validation and approval.

You don’t owe anyone access to the version of you that’s burning out just to keep the business alive.

You owe yourself a new standard. One where
boundaries are the baseline, not the bonus. Where rest is required, not held hostage as a reward.
And where you build and serve,
only your most aligned and ideal clients, from your overflow, not out of obligation.

Dr. Frantonia Pollins
Master Business Profit Strategist | Transformational Life Coach | Wealth Consciousness Mentor

P.S. In Part 3, we move from breakdown to breakthrough. We’re going to talk about what becomes possible when you clear the clutter, confront the truth, and finally make space for new possibilities to emerge. Next-level clarity. Soul-aligned strategy. And a new identity that fits who you are now, not who you had to be to survive.

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