From the desk of Dr. Frantonia Pollins
Tuesday, June 10, 2025
Greetings Reader,
There’s something sacred about reaching that moment when the success, the structure, the image you’ve built… just isn’t enough anymore. Not because you’ve failed, but because you’ve evolved. And lately, I’ve found myself standing in that space. The in-between. The unraveling. The rising. Not with shame, but with reverence. Because the truth is: I’m no longer willing to lead from exhaustion, prove through perfection, or build in a way that betrays who I’m becoming. And I know I’m not alone.
Have you ever noticed how when a certain word, theme, or truth keeps showing up in your life—on repeat, in every conversation, every room, every quiet moment—you’d better stop and pay attention?
Lately, that word for me has been reinvention.
Everywhere I turn, client sessions, private chats, podcast interviews, even my own reflections, it’s the same truth, spoken in different ways:
“I’ve outgrown this version of me.”
“I don’t know where I fit anymore.”
“I feel like something in me is changing—and I can’t un-feel it.”
This isn’t a breakdown. It’s not a mid-life crisis. And no, it’s not confusion. It’s a recalibration. I know because I am in the thick of it as we speak.
And a few weeks ago, I had the honor of guiding 11 extraordinary women entrepreneurs through their own sacred awakening during The Divine Disruption Virtual Day Retreat.
What happened during those six powerful hours wasn’t about checklists, templates, or surface-level strategy.
It was a deep descent into truth.
A space where the masks came off, the walls came down, and what was buried finally had room to rise.
If you’ve been carrying the invisible weight of holding it all together, while slowly disconnecting from your own joy, clarity, or calling, keep reading. I've got something for you.
Over the next few days, I’m going to share some of the raw, unfiltered lessons we unearthed—starting today with Part 1: Recognizing the Hidden Blocks that keep high-achieving women stuck in patterns of burnout, overdelivering, and misaligned loyalty.
Here’s what we uncovered, what cracked open, and what became undeniably clear:
1. Clinging to Outdated Models & Clients You’ve Outgrown
Late in the afternoon, the conversation turned to the guilt that keeps us stuck in outdated offers and with clients who no longer ignite our passion.
One woman tearfully admitted she’d been serving programs she no longer believed in, and clinging to every relationship, because she feared looking “uppity,” or abandoning her original community.
Her “survivor’s remorse” and savior complex had her trapped in contracts and coaching calls she dreaded.
Lesson: Holding onto what no longer serves you under the guise of loyalty is a recipe for burnout and keeps you from stepping into your next-level impact.
True leadership requires the courage to evolve your business and release those you’re meant to set free, so you can both rise.
2. The Exhaustion of Keeping Up, and the Fear of Being Left Behind
There was a moment in the retreat when one woman threw up her hands and said, “I’m exhausted just trying to keep up.” She wasn’t talking about her clients or her to-do list; she was talking about the relentless pace of change.
New tech platforms, shifting algorithms, economic twists, fickle customer behaviors, marketing trends that last a hot minute… it felt like running on a treadmill that keeps speeding up.
Lesson: You don’t have to chase every trend or master every new tool to succeed. Your real power lies in your ability to adapt with intention, focus on your unique strengths, and create connection that transcends fleeting fads.
3. The Unhealed Money Sh!t That Keeps You Overdelivering and Under-Earning
Midway through the day, one brave woman shared the heavy truth: she felt she had to earn love through constant giving, overdelivering to clients, friends, and family, because deep down, she secretly believed she wasn’t worthy of abundance. That confession opened the floodgates.
Lesson: Our relationship with money is never just about dollars; it’s about self-concept and what we believe we are worthy of. Healing your money story is the key to stepping off the hustle hamster wheel and finally claiming your financial power.
And once that truth that so many of us secretly carry was spoken, it was like the whole room exhaled.
Because we weren’t just talking about pricing or packages, we were saying the quiet parts out loud; talking about inherited beliefs that have kept brilliant women overgiving, undercharging, and afraid to fully receive.
In that space, something holy happened: we gave each other permission to stop trying to earn our worth through performative actions that lead to burnout and exhaustion. To stop settling for just surviving and start embodying what it means to thrive.
In that space, we finally affirmed that womanhood, wealth, and well-being can co-exist.
Dr. Frantonia Pollins
Master Business Profit Strategist | Transformational Life Coach | Wealth Consciousness Mentor
P.S. In Part 2, we’re going deeper, not just into what’s no longer working, but into the why we keep pretending it is. Because the truth is, high-achieving women know how to perform 'success' even when everything underneath is unraveling.